by Sameena Khan,
Guest writer, In5D.com
Death of the Ego in Jungian terms, really just means the loss of how we subjectively perceive ourselves to be. A loss of identity of sorts but not a loss of who we are. To explain further, it’s a loss of those constructs we tend to use to define who we are when in fact we are really so much more than what we think. According to transpersonal psychology, the ego is a part of us that makes us unique, gives us our personality, our issues, our likes and dislikes, a way of interpreting our experiences through maybe not the clearest of lenses.
For instance, before my awakening I had moved around a lot in the U.S. for my graduate training and for work. This meant having to introduce myself more times than I’d have liked. If someone asked me then to describe myself I would have said something like “Hi, I’m Sameena, I’m from Canada, I’m a psychologist, an athlete, I like music and sports and cooking and blah blah blah.” I’m already asleep.
Not that these things aren’t important, and they are all true to a degree, but there is so much more to me than these constructs. I found this out while I was sick, while I experienced the excruciating Dark Night (years) of the soul, and many Ego Deaths all at once. I didn’t do it on purpose, not consciously anyway. By being so physically ill for years I realized I was no longer a psychologist as I was too sick to work, I was no longer an athlete because my body barely moved, and I definitely was not a cook because I was too tired to create something in the kitchen. I wasn’t a daughter because I felt more like a burden, and I wasn’t a girlfriend as I left my long-term relationship. I wasn’t a friend because I let most of my old friendships go. OK, I was still a big music connoisseur but who isn’t? Actually I know one lady who doesn’t like music but needless to say we aren’t friends.
Anyway, my point is that when we experience an Ego Death (or many), we can use this opportunity to find out who we truly are. Who are you without the labels, without the shoulds, without the programming and conditioning since childhood?
I found out that I am a sensitive and intuitive being and although sometimes I don’t want to be, it is a part of who I am. I learned that I have so much love inside of me that any moment I feel like I could burst into a million hearts. I learned that I am way smarter than I originally thought, because I now understand that we are all connected. I learned about the Universal Laws and the Higher Perspective. Three graduate degrees and that was never in the curriculum.
I learned that I am very forgiving, and have the capacity to love unconditionally. I learned to face my shadows and accept them as parts of me instead of denying them and hiding behind ego constructs. I learned that my outer world reflects my inner world and that this is constantly changing because I am constantly working on myself and shifting.
I learned that people are mirrors of what needs to be healed, and what has already been healed. I learned that others tend to drain my energy and I’m not going to socialize if I don’t want to. I learned that I am not an athlete, but I love playing sports. I pop into the kitchen and can whip something up, but I’m not a cook.
Ego Death is a beautiful thing. It allows us to explore who we really are instead of fitting into little boxes. We get the opportunity to reconnect with our own soul. We explore our likes and dislikes, our uniqueness, but we don’t attach to labels as our identity.
Death of the Ego gives us a more truthful perspective about ourselves and about others. I now understand the difference when I am operating from Ego versus operating from the Heart, and can sense this in others as well, while understanding that our Ego never really dies while we are alive. We just aren’t what we thought we were, and when we realize this we change our perspective on everything. We free ourselves from chains we’ve placed or allowed others to place on us, and life is much more beautiful when we live from a place of authenticity.
About the author: Sameena Khan is a Clinical Psychologist, Writer, Holistic Lifestyle Consultant, and Alchemist. Her intuitive psycho-spiritual work helps others explore and work through their psychological, emotional, physical, and overall energetic blockages in order to live a healthier and more joyful life. You can visit her at HolisticSoulPsychology.